I got to know about this idea of sending an anonymous love letter, from a friend of mine and from this page. I really liked the idea, so I decided to give it a go.
In this post, I’ll write about my experience of handing someone an anonymous love letter and about my thoughts on this exercise.
I saw this woman at a cafe. She was with her friend, eating, talking and having a good time. I found myself attracted to her – of course, I didn’t talk with her, so I can’t tell what she is like as a person and if I will be really attracted to her once I’ve started talking with her. But, from the way she was that I could see, I felt my curiosity started brewing, and I decided to write a letter to her.
I have no problem with approaching women I’m curious about and telling them that I’m curious about them. It doesn’t mean I never get nervous. In fact, I do like the experience of feeling nervous and that is exactly what I want to feel in the very beginning.
Writing a letter is not as direct as talking to someone in person, but I did get nervous from writing the letter. My hand got shaky, though it made my handwriting somewhat neater than usual.
I can’t remember the exact words I wrote. I believe it went something like this:
I noticed you earlier and how stunning you are. I imagine you have something beautiful inside you just like how you look. You make me curious and make me want to get to know you more. I love women, and I love you. Thanks for being who you are…
Once I finished writing, I headed to her table, swerved by, placed the letter in front of her, and walked away without looking back.
I have no idea what she thought I have no idea what her friend thought. I have no idea about anything in relation to this whole thing.
It was meant to be a pure gift, from which I had expected nothing in return. I have pretty much zero interest in trying to impress women, because my priority is to be curious about them and to be impressed by them so to speak. But I admit that there could be a part of me that wants some affection in return when I approach women in person.
With this exercise, though, there is no room for such a part of me to sneak in. In that sense, I think it’s a great exercise to develop this mentality of pure giving.
Also, it can be used as an exercise to get ready to approach women (or men for that matter) if you feel uncomfortable making such a step.
It’s easy to write an anonymous love letter and deliver it to someone you find interesting. Tell me about your experiences if you try it (i.e. this is a polite, Japanese way of saying, “do it by all means!”).