If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s possible to live a romantic life, here’s good news: Yes, you can. You don’t have to be in a fairytale. You don’t have to be a super model. You don’t have to be a rock star.

But you do need to commit yourself to change your life style, especially if your current life looks far from what you consider to be a romantic life for you.

You can’t just wait for something magical to happen. Let’s say you feel something romantic is missing from your life and you choose to do nothing about it and to wait for something that completely changes your life. This something might happen in a week, a month, a year, 10 years, or 40 years… or never. Do you want to play that game? All you need to do is to wait for something amazing to happen to you throughout your life, but you can do nothing but wait. No, thank you, I don’t want to play that game, because I believe it’s much more effective to be active and to work on creating the life I want to live.

In fact, I believe it’s fair to say that this something amazing is happening every moment, right in front of us. Or perhaps, right inside us. Unless you choose not to choose, we can choose what to do and, on a bigger scale, how we live.

Instead of waiting, you can define your romance and start living a romantic life on your own terms. It’s important to define your romance, because it’s your life and what a conventional image of romance (whatever that is) tells you may not be what you really want. Even if you do want to live the conventional romance kind of life, defining your romance will be a good exercise for you to reconsider how you want your life to look like.

I believe that there are some fundamental elements that make your life romantic, and I also believe that anyone who wants to live a romantic life should build up their romantic life based on these elements.

Generally speaking, it’s not what you do that makes your life romantic, but it’s who you are that makes your life romantic. For example, I believe you need to cultivate a great relationship with yourself and you need to be authentic and honest about who you are when you interact with others as well as yourself. Also, if you are romantically interested in women, I believe it is essential for you to be curious about women, to try to understand them and to celebrate them. Likewise, if you are romantically interested in men, again, I believe it is essential for you to be curious about men, to try to understand them and to celebrate them.

Beyond these fundamental elements, however, what kind of relationship you have, where you live, where you go, what you do and all other things in your life are up to you. Have you ever felt a strong emotion that you would classify as romantic? If so, what would make you feel that way? Is there any way for you to rearrange your life so you can feel that feeling more frequently than now? How do you want your life to look like?

By the way, you might be thinking, “Hey, that’s nice. But I’m in a relationship/married and I’m not sure if what you say applies to me”. It still applies to you, because being in a relationship is not the end of your journey and it’s a great opportunity for you and your partner to grow together. You can still define your romance and live a romantic life.

Or perhaps you might be thinking, “Well, I’m living a romantic life and I don’t need to define it again”. That’s great! I’m curious about your romantic life and how you define it. Please share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

For me, being romantic involves the following.

I will make sure that I’m a person who can notice and seize beautiful moments, which last forever in my memories as long as I’m alive. In order to be that person, I guide myself by curiosity, I do my best to be authentic and honest about who I am, and I live with the aim of witnessing and even bringing out the beauty in people I meet and in things I experience.

I also create a lifestyle that allows me to experience these moments more. This requires me to believe in my potential and in myself, to cultivate a great relationship with myself, to set a high purpose in my life, to keep learning and to provide value to others.

As I write this piece, it occurs to me that what I really mean by a romantic life is a life filled with love – love of knowledge, love of beauty, love of women, love of men, love of people, love of great conversations, love of loving, love of feeling loved, and love of whatever you do (for me, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu).

So, as of today, my brief answer to the question “How do you live a romantic life?” is: Know what you want in your life and take action to get it. Fill your life with love. Do it with love.

What do you think? Please share your thoughts with us in the comment section below!